Rae Lee Stegall - Austin, Texas based:
Sexologist & Certified Sex Coach™, QTAP
My Career has traveled around Biology, Wildlife, Research Science, Medical Writing and Sexology.
My Personal Journey
Unraveling the Layers,
Deep down inside ~
Aspects of Me
My Journey has led me to myself, feeling comfortable in my androgynous genderqueer trans-non-binary body. With that comes a Feeling of being at ease with my essence of balanced divine masculine/ feminine/ non-binary energy.
And it took many years after being assigned female at birth (AFAB), then in college, my heart led to me coming out first as a lesbian (not counting when my four year-old self told my mom I was a boy). I loved being a lesbian, and it was huge gain to finally understand some of my Variants and have a community, but it didn't solve everything that was inside of me, so I kept Exploring.
Trans also speaks to my labels because I did not identified with my assigned sex at birth, which is the basic definition of trans. You don't have to move all the way to the other gendered box to be trans, you only need to Liberate Yourself from the box that you were forced to play in society.
Releasing control and viewing things from a different perspective, is the easiest way to true happiness. Authenticity springs from the heart, thus integrating heart with will, emotions and actions, supports you in true expression. This combination sets your soul's purpose into motion here on this Earth.
As much as I wanted to run towards the finish line (that was laid in all the "helpful structures") so that my Happiness could begin... I had an spiritual epiphany and deep guidance to go at a slower pace to find Authentic truth in each and every choice and decision. And in my journey, My truth led me to top-surgery which allowed my spirit to blossom and my true self to feel liberated. So it literately lifted a weight off my chest!
Transition can be a difficult and confusing process, especially when coming out after being steeped in numerous layers of social expectations- such as coming out at an older age, or in a conservative area, or small town.
Realize that the physical part is only a small portion compared to the entire inner journey of breaking out of social constructs and religious overtones, gendered roles and cis-heteronormative structures- this is an Inside job.
It's like one of those iceberg pictures where you see a tiny bit of it sticking out of the water but the real, entire iceberg is gigantic, unseen underneath the water. Well, that's the Internal you, and its Multifaceted, complex, layered and BEAUTIFUL.
It took patience, strength, and courage to not rush it, because if you plow forward, you end up not catching the very Breath that you are Seeking. I found is that bypassing always catches up to you and mental and emotional and spiritual challenges can and do surface.
So if you are feeling confused, stuck, not sure what your next step should be, please contact me. I understand the journey of self exploration, and I want to help guide you through it. Together we will lay out your goals and find actions to get the improvements you desire.